Comments on: Do We Care More?

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 27 Jun 2007 23:50:19 +0000

We create our own schedule. If we’re too busy, it’s because we’re taking on too much or that we WANT to be busy.

How we manage time is entirely up to us.

Thus, being busy will always and forever be…an excuse.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 27 Jun 2007 23:45:49 +0000

It’s true that nowadays, custom traditions such as “Take care of the elderly” has flown out the window. However, not entirely. Different people have different views on what “Taking care of those you love” ever since forever.

Some may perceive that their parents/grandparents would prefer to live in leisure or perhaps they want immaterial items now that they can shed off the responsibility of working their ass off and relax and do the things they want to do.

Yes, someone has to do it. But who better to do it than the children they have brought into the world, the children they have showered love upon, the children who have before, depended on them. Most of the time, we all see parents’ love as unconditional. But is it?

To me, I don’t think I want to be left aside by my own flesh and blood and thought of as a burden. I want to know what is happening and how they’re going through life, sometimes, I’d just want to be part of solution to a problem. To help them in their time of need.

However, this is my own world view and nobody can really say my opinion is wrong or that yours is all perfect. Isn’t that what makes us all human?

By: Bell

Bell — Wed, 27 Jun 2007 20:37:56 +0000

My main point in my previous comment is that, perhaps people don’t really wanna be holding responsibility of having their own family as well as having to care for parents and grandparents.

Perhaps being busy is just an excuse…

Perhaps…

By: Bell

Bell — Wed, 27 Jun 2007 20:35:23 +0000

I wonder if perhaps the issue isn’t with caring “more” or “less”… but perhaps with whether people WANT to care for the older generation anymore? I know it’s mean… but I personally wouldn’t want to be stuck taking care of my grandparents and parents when I’m older and more successful. Of course caring for them IS the right thing to do and I know it. And in the end, someone has to do it, whether it’s you or another sibling or even if they’re sent to a retirement home, someone has to visit regularly right? I know my MIL (mother in law) is absolutely adamant she will not set foot in a retirement home or village. There are many “village communities” around now where each person has their own house (not studio apartment) where they can hang out with other elderly people You cannot purchase one of these houses unless you’re over 50 yrs, and if u choose to rent out a room, you still need to be the primary tenant. I always feel those are a good idea, they retain their independence. But what if, like in the case of MIL, your elder WANTS to be cared for, but my a family member? and what if they want a specific family member? *doom*

I’m just rambling… lalalala